Tuesday, 22 January 2019

Hey, It's Ok

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With Amber from Airing My Dirty Laundry

That I spent the past few days hibernating. It has been COLD here in Ontario, especially with the wind chill...it has felt as cold as -30 here. Perfect reason to stay home, wrap yourself in blankets, read and watch TV/Netflix. 

To be happy that How To Get Away With Murder is back! I love this show, but it's annoying how long of a hiatus they take between the "Winter Finale" and starting the second half of the season.

That I enjoyed Becoming by Michelle Obama. As a political daughter, it's always interesting for me to hear about other political families and their experience. It was a great, inspiring read.

To really like the sneak peeks of new Kate Spade branding! I like the updates they have made, and I'm looking forward to seeing the full re-brand next week!

That Gillian Anderson will be playing Margaret Thatcher on The Crown. I think that Gillian is a great actress and it'll be great to see how she portrays Margaret. 


Monday, 21 January 2019

Just Done

Towards the end of 2018, I ended a friendship with one of my best friends. In January or February of 2018, she started an affair with a married co-worker. She too is married. As of November, the last time I really spoke to her, she was still involved with him. She thought she was in love with him and thought of him as her boyfriend. 

She used me in a VERY messed up game that she was playing. Her "boyfriend" also used me as a pawn in order to "get back at" people he didn't like, and to reassure my former friend. Things spiraled out of control and over 20 people ended up in an unnecessary, painful, stressful situation. The result of what they did affected people in life changing ways...this was not a small situation. 

Of all the people who know of and were involved in the situation, most of them think that I was treated the most unfairly and harshly, with greatest consequences. There was a whole aspect of my life that was turned upside down and torn apart. I don't know if I was treated the most unfairly, but I agree that I had the greatest consequences. I am still dealing with and wading through those consequences from two months ago. I am optimistic that things will work out and be resolved, but as of right now, there is no end in sight.

In the immediate aftermath, I cut her out of my life. I didn't talk to her, and I prevented her from talking to me- blocking and deleting her. 

She and I eventually had a very short conversation, where my goal was to tell her that I wasn't mad or upset with her...I had accepted the situation and moved on. I had no intention of rekindling our friendship, but I wanted her to know I had no ill will. 

Her goal was to tell me how much I hurt her by blocking her, how unfairly I had treated her, that I hadn't acted like a friend...essentially tell me I am bad person, guilt trip me, and play the role of victim. As far as she was concerned, I was making up things that had happened to me- even though I was flat out told that what was happening to me was a result of something she had said and done, which I told her. She told me she couldn't talk about it and proceed to update me on her life, as if nothing had happened. I was a little surprised-as she identifies as a Christian and says she wants to do the right thing, and be a good person- that she refused to take ownership for her role, her refusal to apologize for- or even acknowledge- the damage she created.

I, in good conscience and good faith, could not be friends with someone like her- liar, cheater, consistent stupid decision maker, hurting innocent people, backstabbing her best friend, frequently selfish and self absorbed, etc. I deserved better than that. Plus, you are who you associate with and I did not want to be associated with all of that. Our conversation reaffirmed to me that I had done the right thing in ending our friendship.


We hear it all the time- know when to cut your losses and move on. Easier said than done, I know. A lot of times you just need to be done...with situations, people. Sometimes there is just no working things out...because there is no positive resolution, because the other person doesn't deserve to still be in your life, because you can't reach a resolution, because...because...because...

You can just walk away.

You don't need to harbour resentment or bad feelings. You can just say "I'm done" and move forward with your life. You don't need to justify or explain why you are done. You can be done with things over big situations- like mine- or it can be over small things that bother you but are insignificant to others. You don't need to rehash things, you don't have to try and work things out, and you do not need to accommodate anyone else.

Know yourself worth and value.

Just be done. 

It's ok to be done.

Friday, 18 January 2019

2018 Favourites

I am a tiny bit delayed in this post, but I wanted to share with all of you some of my favourites from 2018!

Skincare:
Garnier SkinActive Moisture Bomb has worked wonders on my super dry skin. This is a quick absorbing, long lasting moisturizer that adds so much relief to my skin. This product can be used day and night, but I only use it in the morning. 


Makeup:
Pixi H2O Skin Tint Tinted Face Gel is more like a tinted moisturizer and a great substitute for foundation! I'm not a fan of foundation, as I feel it's too heavy on my skin. This product is light coverage, does a great job evening out your skin tone, and making skin look flawless. 

Clothing:
Old Navy Boyfriend Straight Jean are the most comfortable jeans I have ever worn! On top of that, these jeans are the perfect length for me; I'm only 5'2" and they hit right above my ankle, no tailoring needed.

Shoes:


Deflex Comfort Shoes from Payless are my go to shoe. They come in a variety of styles, but they all have a foam sole which is super comfortable. They also are elastic so they form to your foot, with no slipping and no blisters! I wear these shoes for 12+ hours with no issues.

Scent:
Lemongrass is a scent that I have been drawn to throughout 2018. I really like the citrus scent, it's very fresh and energizing. There are a ton of benefits to this essential oil, but I really just like the smell. 

Accomplishment:
So, I don't have an image to go along with this 'Favourite', but in 2018 I had 98 events that I worked on! This is by far the most events I have ever worked on in a single year. In 2017, I worked on 60-something events, which at the point had been the most. I am so proud on the number and quality of events that I did. On top of the 98 events, In 2018 I had started working on 20-25 events for 2019.

Memory:
Image via adventureworld.com.au
Ever since I can remember, I have always wanted to visit Prince Edward Island. I had the opportunity to go to PEI in 2018 and I had an amazing time! This was the first time I traveled and explored a place by myself, and PEI was a great place to visit! You can see pictures from my trip here, here, here, and here.

Thursday, 17 January 2019

Prosciutto & Cheese Rolls

Like everyone else, I lead a busy life so I am always on the hunt for quick and easy recipes. One of my 'go to' things to make is stuffed crescent rolls. Recently, I have been loving prosciutto and cheese stuffed crescent rolls! These roll are great as an appetizer, lunch, or an on-the-go breakfast.

Ingredients:
  • 1 package crescent rolls
  • 1 package of prosciutto
  • 1 package of cheese

 To Make:
  • Roll out crescent rolls
  • Layer a slice of prosciutto 
  • Layer a slice of cheese
  • Roll crescent roll
  • Bake crescent rolls according to instructions on package
  • Enjoy!



Notes:

  1. These can be served warm or cold
  2. I use Pillsbury Mini Crescent rolls
  3. I use gouda cheese